Sis, This is Why You Should Leave Him...

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Relationships are like business deals. You offer love, affection, time, finance, advice, and a lot of freaking time in hope for the same in return. But let's be real, can you really be with someone who cannot offer you anything financially, has no ambition, or any desires to achieve something in life? Maybe he's a nice guy but being nice alone is not enough to fulfill you or your future family.

No Ambition

It's one thing if your man has a lot of debt or no credit at all but he must have a plan! Energy moves both men and women in the right direction. Ever heard of "you are who you hang with"? The same applies with our partners. Personalities, traits, and words rub off naturally. Your "Leader" must have a desire in life to be the best version of themselves because he can motivate you and lead his family to success. Without ambition, you and your children will lack inspiration. Without inspiration, life could be meaningless. Couples should be able to have deep conversations about long term and short term goals. We should all have a purpose to do something in life! Besides, it makes the relationship exciting. Travel, live life, and do something different. Feel me?

If his financials aren't in order

Now, in a relationship someone has to resist excessive consumer temptation and be financially disciplined. Whether it's paying debt off, maintaining good credit, and understanding how money works. Credit is king too. Having great credit leads to buying a home in the near future and having access to emergency loans. If a primary home is not in his vision soon, where will the couple sleep? Nothing wrong with renting a place to stay but rent has been ridiculously high in recent years and a fixed mortgage will always remain the same payment. If he doesn't have strong credit, he better be willing to improve it.

Distraction/Toxic

Sis, you need to focus. Don't be with someone who constantly provokes you, degrades you, and shows little to no appreciation. Heated arguments really distract you from being yourself and it's also emotionally draining. Just imagine you're a mother, a human being, a student and you bust your ass at work just to deal with bad vibes at the end of the day. It can be challenging to work on specific projects, enjoy your time with family or friends, and live throughout your day after a fight between your spouse. Queens, there's not enough time for that. It's even hard for you to eat and sleep! The food won't even taste the same... let him go and be at peace.

Fellas you too!

If women are not willing to mentally and financially grow with you, then it's time to leave.

Bottom Line

That person is a reflection of you! If your boyfriend, husband, or sneaky link lacks motivation then chances are you will too. If you hang out with three broke friends then you'll be the fourth. If one fruit is rotten then all the fruits will be rotten. These principles apply the same way to couples who are in a serious relationship. Get a leader who will offer peace and guide you onto a positive path to personal success! Stop playing....